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I would like to give you permission to “feel all the feels”. I say ‘permission’ because sometimes, it’s only when someone says it’s okay to do something that we actually let our mental, emotional and physical guards down and do the thing we know deep down we should be doing.
I am no doctor or therapist, but as a spiritual being, having this temporary human experience, I can talk from the heart. From all the lessons I have learned and applied in my own life, I aim to share from personal insight, experience, and perspective. And therefore, from one soul to another, I hope you will be able to relate to and connect with the following.
Highs, lows and anywhere in between...
As we are fluctuating beings in a world that is consistently changing and challenging us, it’s natural to slide between the different emotional states on the wellbeing spectrum. Life happenings, and our personal choices will directly influence where we land on any given day/time.
The following list below is nothing scientific, but rather a few highlights, and low-lights, of the variety of feelings we will possibly fluctuate between. Some of you may even go through half of them in a rather, shall we say ‘eventful’ or ’emotional’ day. In Drama School, I remember the phrase used ‘Say hello to your body’ an acknowledgement of our instrument. And as humans, I feel we should say hello to ALL our emotions, which also need to be acknowledged, embraced, and accepted as part of the whole.
Feeling Amazing – Bursting with vitality / Life going fabulously well / Received great news / Fit and healthy.
Feeling Happy – Well in body and mind / Content with life / Optimistic about the present and future.
Feeling Average – Things Okay/ Nothing that great or terrible / Some days more inspiring than others.
Feeling Unbalanced – Anxious / Angry / Stressed / Fearful / Overwhelmed / Agitated / Frustrated / Resistant / Tense.
Feeling Low – Dullness / Tearful / Lost / Bland / Pessimistic / Stagnant / Received sad news / Minor health issues.
Feeling Very Low – Dark, heavy energy / Depressed / No hope / Unmotivated / Numbness / Grief / Tearful / Serious health issues.
Permission to feel...
One day you may wake up feeling ratty or negative or uninspired or have low energy. Another day you may be having an awesome time, then something happens, which sets you off on a downward spiral. Or perhaps on occasion you see others with an apparently perfect life (job-partner-family-health), which you compare yourself to and consequently spin into a funk or a victim (poor me) mindset.
Whenever the above (or a similar scenario) happens allow space for your new emotions. Simply notice your change in mood and thoughts, reflect upon them, try not to push them down, or hide from them. Maybe even write them down, many people find this helpful. Be mindful of the triggers that set you off. Are they always the same? Can they be avoided? You can even use a ‘feeling’ as your object of meditation, meditating upon the sensations that have arisen, mental, emotional or physical. And always remember,
This too shall pass.
A student went to his meditation teacher and said, “My meditation is horrible! I feel so distracted, or my legs ache, or I’m constantly falling asleep. It’s just horrible!”
“It will pass,” the teacher said matter-of-factly.
A week later, the student came back to his teacher. “My meditation is wonderful! I feel so aware, so peaceful, so alive! It’s just wonderful!’
“It will pass,” the teacher replied matter-of-factly.
There is also another story of a student who went to his meditation teacher saying he was feeling unhappy and couldn’t shift it, and therefore felt frustrated. The meditation teacher told the student he was allowed to feel as miserable as he liked. By being given the ‘okay’ to feel rubbish, the student was happy to hear this and subsequently felt better and more at ease.
Balance, however, is key and it’s part of our own inner work and guidance system not to let our emotions get the better of us for too long a period. We will do ourselves great service by being observant of those times, and also being aware of the people, places or experiences that commonly bring us down.
On the flip side...
There may be times when letting yourself feel authentic emotions as they arise, being conscious of their presence, meditating upon them whilst not attaching to them would be the wisest choice to make. However, there may also be times when one wishes to rise up out of those low vibrational states (should they be taking too tight a grip).
I’m currently reading an excellent book, that I highly recommend called “The Power Of Intention” by the late Dr Wayne Dyer. The book is actually not about ‘feeling all the feels’ but rather how to stay connected to the more uplifting and enjoyable higher vibrations of Intention-Source-God-Creation.
This book is full of positive inspiration and teachings, helping shift one’s mood and mindset up the ladder on the joy of life-wellbeing spectrum (listed above) in order to attract that which you desire.
Either way, remember all emotions have a place, act as indicators, hold value and can serve a purpose towards our awakening. Listen to them, reflect upon them, and use them as vessels of growth.
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” —Haruki Murakami
As always, I hope this post guides, supports or inspires you in some way towards greater well-being.
Love and peace,